Holidays as a single mum are hard, no matter which way you slice it. You can get extended family involved, but when it all boils down to it: all the planning, the paying and the execution are solely on your shoulders.
It can be a bummer, I totally understand. 2/3 of the Mothers’ Days I have celebrated as a mom have been as a single mom. It’s hard some days!
But, as with all things, you get to choose how to handle it. You can choose to be angry about your situation and sulk, or you can choose to make the best of it.
There’s no reason why you should skip Mother’s Day if you choose to celebrate (and opting out is totally fine as well!).
You can do this!
Here’s a couple of tips to help you make Mothers Day great!
* Get your kids involved. Depending on their ages, your kiddos can handle making breakfast, or cleaning the kitchen or the bathroom or if they’re older, they can even manage your smalls while you go to a movie!
* Keep it simple. We don’t need huge parades of gifts and lavish things showered upon us (every mom DESERVES that, but it’s ok if we don’t get it!). If my kids make me a card and give me an hour by myself (without questions) in my office to work on my calligraphy or my painting, I’m happy with that.
* Pair up with another (or 3 or 4!) single mom(s). Working together to make a Mothers Day great for everyone is fulfilling and beautiful. Plan a picnic. If you’ve got older kids, pool all the kids together and have the older ones watch the littles while the moms go get pedicures or go to the movies or have a meal at a restaurant with nobody yelling or asking you to cut the meat or making gagging noises. (The babysitting can be the older kids’ gift to you.)
* Get it pre-made (or go out for it). Even if you’re just getting pizza, it’s a meal you didn’t have to make. Buy one of those meal kits at the store that you just need to heat up (bonus points if the kids can heat it up themselves)! Make Mothers’ Day low impact for yourself.
* Don’t compare. Zero good things come from saying “but Mary got blah blah blah for Mothers’ Day and I only got xxxx.” Mary is not you (unless your name is actually Mary, then I’m talking about a different Mary). You are not Mary. Comparing your situation to Mary’s is like comparing that one time you did karaoke to that guy who sings showtunes at the local supermarket while he shops. They both have their benefits, but they’re totally different situations.
When push comes to shove, yes you have to make your own Mothers Day, but that doesn’t mean you cannot make it awesome.