My friend Xenia posted something very important on Facebook this morning.
“self care can be rowdy, loud, or even violent. Not everyone heals with home-cooked dinners and hot baths and good books. Some people need the raging squall to heal.”
I am not inherently a quiet human.There are so many pieces out there on gentle self care. Meditation, yoga, brushing your hair, treating yourself gently.
I see so many posts on Instagram and blogs and Facebook about self care, and sometimes I feel left out because some of those ideas don’t fit me.
I do enjoy a good bath on occasion. I also love making myself a home-cooked meal. I love pampering myself. I love the opportunity to get my nails done.
But what if that doesn’t work for you? What if you need something with a little more….volume?
There are times when being gentle with myself is good. There are times when self care is a face mask and a bath and tea and pulling my down comforter off my bed and wrapping myself in it like a cocoon.
But sometimes, I need loud and ROWDY self care.
Some days, I need to sit, fully clothed, in my dry bathtub and clench every muscle in my body for a minute before I can relax and move on with my day. Sometimes I need to sing Disney songs or showtunes at the top of my lungs while I dance wildly around my house. Sometimes I need to lift heavy weights and listen to Tool on repeat.
I have days where I want to go to the trampoline park in our neighborhood and jump until I can’t anymore.
I have days where dry brushing is simply the best thing I can do for myself, because I need a good scrubbing.
And those choices for self care are just as valid as the gentler, more quiet choices.
Self-care is not “one size fits all”. It depends on what you need. Make sure to listen to yourself and don’t judge what comes <3
This post was written as a part of the NaBloPoMo, a daily blogging journey I am committing to in November 2017.