It’s hard to start over, to be stripped down to the bare bones. To rebuild.
It’s scary to be left with empty hands and watch people walk away from you. To feel like you have nothing left. It’s an empty place.
I’ve left relationships with nothing but a suitcase and a single end table (long story), leaving behind everything I had used to define me… including my heart. I’ve had to rebuild from the ground up a few times in my life, sometimes rebuilding from a deep hole in the ground left behind by an explosion of circumstances.
After 10 years writing blog posts on Bruises in the Frosting, it was time for a change. It was time to wash the slate clean and start fresh. I had accumulated so many memories and so much information on that blog, but it was starting to be a behemoth I no longer recognized.
So it was time. And sometimes, that’s a hard thing to voluntarily go through.
In the interest of using myself as a (sometimes good?) example of how you can do things, I thought my first post on this brand new fresh and shiny blog should show how you can see the signs when you have to walk away, no matter how big the situation, and start anew.
So, here are the 5 big red stop signs that told me it was time for a rebuild:
- It wasn’t fun anymore. My partnerships and ambassador partners dried up or walked away and my readers stopped visiting, because they could tell. The color had gone out of my world. I wasn’t “Mia Cupcake” anymore, I was a robot writing blog posts. And nobody wants to read that.
- I didn’t know what I was writing for. My ideals, my purpose and my mission were being muddied with other things and I didn’t even know what was going on half of the time. I would open up a blank post screen and nothing would come out. I had a notebook FULL of ideas and could.not.follow.through. There was no point.
- I winced when people asked me how “the blogging thing” was going. I felt like I would be lying if I said anything other than “OMG, it’s sucking my soul out and I hate everything about it” and lying is something I have worked so hard to stop doing.
- The numbers tanked. I’m not one to pay much attention to numbers normally. But when you go from pretty healthy stats to single digits, it’s a blow. And a huge indicator that something is not going right.
- I stopped talking to my blogging friends. When I am unhappy, it’s really difficult for me to genuinely be happy for people who are succeeding where I fail. I attached my happiness to my blogging success, and when both tanked HARD, I started avoiding my bloggy friends to avoid seeing all their amazing successes.
When it all boils down to it, trust your gut. If your whole being is screaming “THIS IS WRONG” and you’ve tried tweaking things, sometimes it’s just time to go.
You know what is best for you <3