I have to start somewhere. I absolutely am not going to update the blog every day because these posts take quite a bit of time, but I thought I would share the reality that was Day One of what will probably be the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and the best thing I’ve ever done.
I was going to take photos of my whole house for day one as a reference of my starting point, and I realized two things:
- There is a lot of really personal information just hanging out in various places in my house that I would rather not share on the internet, and GOD KNOWS I will not hide all of it properly for photographs, and then my address or social security number or something will just be out there for everyone to see.
- I need to slow my roll.
I promised I would eat this elephant bite by bite, and sometimes when I get my hands on a new project, I want to just dive in. As history has proven, I have a habit of saying “YEAH I AM GOING TO DO IT” and then I just quietly….don’t do it. Elephants are an overwhelming meal when you look at the whole thing all at once.
I have a tendency to start things and get really excited about preparing to start them….and then never really starting them. Or sticking to it. This needs to stick. So I have to take this one step at a time.
I wrote about my goals in the “holy cr*p I am doing this” post from yesterday, so I won’t reiterate them here. They seemed really massive and insurmountable when I read through all of them, so I decided to tackle a few smaller items on Day One. This way, I don’t flame out and run away and quit the whole thing.
Here’s what I did today:
- I dropped out of
74122 Facebook groups. They were negative (I was in a LOT of true crime groups that could get pretty dark and a couple of dumpster fire groups), had to do with shopping (or would tempt me to shop) or just weren’t applicable to my life anymore. There were a couple I didn’t really give a rat’s potato about anymore, and those went too. I’ll probably go back through tomorrow and delete more. (I did NOT count this as time on social media, since I wasn’t perusing anything, just cleaning).
(If you want to clean up your Facebook groups as well, check the bottom of this post for instructions!)
- I unfollowed about 200 people on Instagram and Twitter. People I no longer wanted to see in my feed, stores I know would tempt me into buying more things, and accounts I just don’t care about. My time is precious and I do not want to waste any more of it on things I don’t believe in or even like. (Didn’t count this as social media time either since, again, I wasn’t there for socializing or scrolling. Just deleting.)
- I switched my usual daily background noise from streaming video to podcasts. I normally turn on Netflix or Hulu and let it run while I’m working all day. I don’t usually watch it, but I listen to it all day. Sometimes there’s a visual I am prompted to look at and that pulls my focus from working on projects or keeping a train of thought longer than 30 seconds.
- I went through my podcasts and unsubscribed to any that I no longer wanted to hear and anything that was negative in context (except Dark Poutine, because they’re Canadian and have such a lovely approach to the content they talk about…which is true crime).
- I deleted any podcast episodes in my library older than a month. I have not listened to podcasts in probably a year, but I am subscribed to way too many. It’s manageable now.
- I deleted all the games from my phone except HeadsUp (we play that with my family a lot). I’ve been picking up my phone to check my SimCity or beat another level in Angry Birds Bubble Blast, but putting it back down because I don’t get the feeling I anticipated. It’s working, sort of?
- I started to tackle the smallest child’s room. Since they are not here for a large portion of time (they are with their dad), sometimes their room becomes overly disastrous and the door is shut a LOT. They are getting a new bed frame this weekend, so the need to clean has become immediate. I found FIVE items that can be either returned to their proper owners or will be going to new homes TODAY. Very exciting! Those items are already in the car, with plans to go as soon as work is done for today.
Today has just been an odd day. A few small adjustments can make a really big difference, but I’m just a little unsettled like I put my underpants on backwards. (You are so welcome for that uncomfortable feeling you’re having right now.)
This is all going to take a lot of consistency, something I have not been known for in the past. I’m going to have to go so far outside my comfort zone, my comfort zone won’t even be accessible anymore. It’s going to be scary. I’m going to need to find a new therapist, since mine moved a few months ago.
It is absolutely not going to be easy, but to live the life I want…it’s going to be necessary.
Rule 9 (no soda or fast food) seemed to be a sticking point with a lot of readers from yesterday. They wanted to know why I would restrict myself. Honestly? I know that soda and fast food make me feel like trash. There’s no benefit to me eating like that. I’m currently working a Whole30 (day 9, woot!) so the “no soda and no fast food” is not currently a problem. Yet. I cried at Duke last night because I was overwhelmed with my choices in life and I just wanted bread, so there’s still work to be done there.
I did manage to get the kitchen sink clean before bed last night (rule 7) and keep the laptop out of my bedroom (rule 5). I had a friend text me yesterday to ask why on earth those are rules, and I promise, I do have good reasoning.
Cleaning the kitchen sink every night before bed ensures it’s clean when I get up to make coffee at gawdawful-thirty in the morning, and is one thing I can do to completion every day. When your list of to-do is eleven pages long, being able to consistently mark at least ONE off your list helps. (I use this to trick my brain so it doesn’t whine about the neverending amount of work that seems to be needed here.)
The laptop thing is because I have a bad habit of just zoning out before bed, and then I am up way too late and in the morning, I hate everything and everybody. Also, because I really don’t need a laptop in my bed. I am constantly rolling over onto it and waking up and without it last night, I got some REALLY good sleep.
I am always happy to answer any questions y’all might have about this whole process; you can reach me through email or hit me up through social media. Instagram is probably your best bet therInstagram is probably your best bet there.
Last but certainly not least, I thought I would spend some time at the end of each of these check in posts with something I learned or something I read that might help you, if you are wanting to end the sh!tshow in your house too.
How to see a list of your Facebook Groups and leave the ones you don’t want:
- From a laptop/computer, go to your News Feed click “Groups” in the left menu.
- In the left menu will show Groups You Manage and Groups You’re In (don’t look at the suggested groups in the main portion of your screen. You don’t need any more groups.).
- Click See more… to see all the groups you manage or are in.
- Go to the group page and click “Joined”.
- From the drop-down menu, click “Leave Group”.
- Click “Leave Group” (bonus points if you click the little box that says “Prevent others from adding you back to this group”.)